Category: the Rant Board
So at present this country is blessed with some glorious rays of sunshine and there is much rejoicing etc etc,
Now, much as I love to bask in the sun, I am also reminded of how much this time of year makes me feel really lonely! There is so much socializing and gregarious goings on at this time of year! If I go out for a walk or to sunbathe I am bombarded with laughter and frivolity and I just feel invisible! I feel like there is not even any point speaking or interacting with anyone because I am just nothing to no one! People will just keep walking and talking and I am merely a passing thought! A couple of summers ago it was not so bad because I had a close friend and a housemate to spend time with but last summer was really hard! I anticipate that this coming season will be no different.
I just miss people so much! Since this is a university town it is a very transient community, I graduated with my first degree in 2008 and since then my friends have left one by one, and since I am only required to attend the occasional tutorial there is no chance of any social opportunities and to be honest the hole student thing is really only a formality now as I have pretty much done with the hole studying thing.
What it comes down to is that the hot weather just exacibates my feelings of isolation, I am a sociable loner in the main, how can friendships be formed and sustained when we can so rarely get past the coldness of casual conversation, I just want a hug so bad! I am a fairly positive and proactive person on the hole so if I could make things better for myself then chances are I probably would have done it! but apart from the voluntary work I do I just feel like I am living my life as a ghost! I’m not close with my family and my friends are so far away in other countries and I just feel fed up and scared for the future, no one would notice if I went missing or just disappeared, I feel fed up!
This is interesting because cold weather often makes me feel that way. I could be out with a crowd and still feel off. Some people get depressed by certain weather. I think it is usually the winter months but I guess it depends on the person.
Hello, I understand how you feel. Sometimes hot weather makes me depressed, although I like summer. Sometimes I feel quite joyful, and then winter makes me feel depressed. I think for me, it just depends on my mood. But I wish you all the best, and lots of comfort. Sends you a comforting hug.
Take care
I think I know how you feel. I used to have a job and good health and was very socially active. I frequently went out with co-workers after work and had friends not associated with work too. But I started having serious health problems a few years ago and ended up losing my job four years ago. Most of my so-called friends have disappeared from my life since then, and I spend the majority of my time alone. I used to love the summer months because of the opportunities to get out and have fun, but now I am at home on the computer or listenng to books most of the time.
I don't know if knowing you are not the only one feeling lonely helps at all, but I hope it gives you at least some comfort.
Same here to post 2, winter weather sucks. I'm gonna try to get an inexpensive sun lamp one of these days.
For me, its the cold weather that makes me feel more depressed and lonely too.
It's called seasonal depression. I guess it can happen anytime of the year for some people.
Seasonal affective disorder, or SAD. How fitting.
Thank you! I appreciate the words of support and the hug .. I suppose its a bit like being in a playground and not being sure what to do or how to behave .. the sun just seems to make people ooze a cheerryness that I am not feeling at the moment! *attempts a smile* thanks
I don't get that way in hot weather. I just get tired. Rain is what really gets me down, particularly whenit happens for an extended period. That's one reason I hated Oregon with a passion when I lived there..
winter gets me down. It has for a long time but it has gotten better. I think the key is beeing able to come to grips with your personal situation.
I agree that it is important to come to grips with your personal situation. I was very lonely and missed people a lot when I first lost my job. But it seems that the more time I spend alone, the more I'm OK with it. I do enjoy listening to books and spending time on the computer. Sure, I'd like to get out more like I used to and have more friends. Sometimes I feel that I'm not even the same person I used to be. When I think back to the times when I went out several nights a week, especially in the summer, I almost feel as if that was a different person, and it can get me down. So I just try not to dwell on the past and accept things the way they are now.
Do you at least have people who visit?
Margorp, if that last question was for me, I have one friend left from where I used to work, and we get together occasionally. However, since the agency we worked for has now closed down and she has no reason to drive into the city from where she lives, we see each other less and less. I do live with a relative who works during the day, so I do have someone around in the evenings. I didn't mean to try to make anyone feel sorry for me with my above descriptions of my lifestyle since I lost my health and my job. I was just trying to show the original poster that he or she is not alone and that sometimes you just have to accept your life the way it is now and try not to get depressed over it.
lol I know, please don't think I was sitting here thinking, "that poor thing."